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Monday, December 20, 2010
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Do you have a favorite dessert? If so, what is it and why?
Do you have a favorite dessert? If so, what is it and why?
what book would you say has had the most influence on your life to date and why?
This is a tough one. In my childhood "The Chronicles of Narnia" were my favorite series and those books really influenced my belief that there isn't "one true path" and my sense of adventure. as an early teen "Fahrenheit 451" and" Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy" changed my sense of the way the world could/should work- obviously in different ways."The Vampire Chronicles" were the first "sexy" books I ever read, and I'm certain they had an influence. Very tough. I guess if I had to chose one, I'd have to go with the "Chronicles of Narnia"- and if I have to narrow it down even more than that, I read the "Horse and His Boy" more than any other.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
have you ever cheated in a relatioship? if so why? was it worth it? did you confess or keep it discrete?
I haven't cheated. The reason, in addition to the fact that I strive to live an honest and noble life, is I haven't found the need. With the exception of my first serious relationship, I've always maintained poly and/or open relationships. I have engaged in acts that have made a partner uncomfortable, but each time it has been because we hadn't yet set boundaries, or because they didn't mention they were uncomfortable until after the fact. In most cases, simply communicating how they felt would have resolved any issues.
On the other hand, I have been cheated on by various partners and to varying degrees. Each and every time their actions were dishonest, and in most cases completely unnecessary. Lying is not acceptable, I cannot think of a situation in a mature adult relationship- particularly one claiming to practice "responsible non-monogamy"- where cheating would be acceptable. Being cheated on is not a good feeling. It is particularly unpleasant when a partner had to practice layers of dishonestly to do so. Interestingly, almost every time I've been cheated on the person in question has also disregarded their (and therefore my) personal saftey while in the act; disregarding safer sex and/or safer BDSM practices. It seems not to be a coincidence that these things go hand in hand.
Friday, December 3, 2010
Do you have a wishlist?
Absolutely! I keep an Amazon Wishlist in six categories, to make it easy on anyone who might want to give me a gift. "Objects of Desire" is my general list, "Artistic Pursuits" covers makeup and art supplies, "Day to Day" includes self care and kitchen supplies, "Fashion" is just that, "Hedonism" covers edibles and adult toys, and "Required Reading" is all books. The lists include items in just about every price range, from comics to stand mixers, skin care to pocket watches, chess boards to dog beds and lipstick to truffles. It's fun to wish! Here's a link: http://www.amazon.com/Julian-Wolf/wishlist/341AYJAQRJQ6S/ref=cm_wl_search_1
Friday, November 5, 2010
What are your tips or suggestions for a male first entering in the community to get himself out there, to get noticed, and to engage in play?
Same for everyone- find the local scene, introduce yourself, learn things, ask questions (at appropriate times), go to demos, don't treat the community like Fight Club- you don't have to play your first time. You are more likely to get quality play sooner if you take some time to figure out what actually looks like a good time for you and make personal connections with the people that you're going to play with. Read some books, check out some videos, read up on negotiation and basic saftey.
Remember that we're just a group of people like any other group, so you're going to find a mix of personalities, intentions and behaviors. Get to know some people- check references, use safe calls and have as much fun as possible.
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