Most of my playmates and play partners are on FetLife, so the list would be pretty long! I guess we'd also have to define sexual. Some people include kink & S/M fantasies as being exclusively sexual, some don't. I fairly sure that at least 90% of the people who make my toes curl know. Many of them use that information against me. It's a beautiful thing.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Do you ever feel like your life could very easily go one direction unless you try very, very hard to get it to go in another?
Absolutely. I still fight against stagnation, and I win that fight most days. If I stop fighting, then I'll very quickly go from being who I am to being... well, not a contributing member of society. This year I hope to make some strides in the direction of being significantly more affective at my goals and aspirations. I'll be trying very, very hard.
In the coming year, do you think you will a.) do something you've never done before? b.) do something you'll regret c.) do something the old you wouldn't even have considered or d.) all of the above?
I certainly hope for d! I seek out new experiences- don't always like them (yet am thankful for the experience even if I never want to repeat it) and the old me wouldn't have even conceived that I'd enjoy many of the things I'm passionate about so I can only hope that I'll do a bit of all of the above. I already have some plans to go place I've never been before, so that's a good start.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
When was the last time you gave flowers?
Flowers plural? That's likely been years- I gave my dad a bouquet for his birthday a long time ago. More recently, I've given a single rose to crrreature (I thought it was our anniversary and he was out hosting an event without him- it was an orange rose) and a rose each to two of my playmates when we were out on a date last year to commemorate the forming of our tricycle. Both times were inspired by someone walking by with a basket of roses and me enjoying the color and wanting to celebrate the moment.
I am a firm believer in using the word "Cunt". Howdo you react internally to this word. Do you use it?
I'm not a big fan, but every word has it's place. I rarely use/like others to use slang in reference to my own body parts. I'm a genderqueer and have bit of a Victorian sensibility, so I've actually never sought out having any slang utilized, much less the one you mention.
I don't usually use it, but that's more indicative of the fact that I try to limit my use of harsh language in general. I've caught myself using it recently as an insult, but I'm not a big fan of forming such habits. I do so strive to be a gentelman...
Monday, December 20, 2010
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Ever want to ask me a personal question? This is the place! Anonymous or not, Step right up... and ask away! http://formspring.me/BDSMdandy
What would your dream job look like?
I would teach on sex-positive topics at least monthly, have the opportunity to offer performance art regularly, travel to a variety of locations to do the previous two things, have my written work published regularly, work as a consultant for media, manage my household and work on projects that I care deeply about all while being able to pay my bills and contribute to causes that I care about. I call this dream job "Being a Professional Julian."
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Sunday, December 19, 2010
Do you have a favorite dessert? If so, what is it and why?
Do you have a favorite dessert? If so, what is it and why?
what book would you say has had the most influence on your life to date and why?
This is a tough one. In my childhood "The Chronicles of Narnia" were my favorite series and those books really influenced my belief that there isn't "one true path" and my sense of adventure. as an early teen "Fahrenheit 451" and" Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy" changed my sense of the way the world could/should work- obviously in different ways."The Vampire Chronicles" were the first "sexy" books I ever read, and I'm certain they had an influence. Very tough. I guess if I had to chose one, I'd have to go with the "Chronicles of Narnia"- and if I have to narrow it down even more than that, I read the "Horse and His Boy" more than any other.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
have you ever cheated in a relatioship? if so why? was it worth it? did you confess or keep it discrete?
I haven't cheated. The reason, in addition to the fact that I strive to live an honest and noble life, is I haven't found the need. With the exception of my first serious relationship, I've always maintained poly and/or open relationships. I have engaged in acts that have made a partner uncomfortable, but each time it has been because we hadn't yet set boundaries, or because they didn't mention they were uncomfortable until after the fact. In most cases, simply communicating how they felt would have resolved any issues.
On the other hand, I have been cheated on by various partners and to varying degrees. Each and every time their actions were dishonest, and in most cases completely unnecessary. Lying is not acceptable, I cannot think of a situation in a mature adult relationship- particularly one claiming to practice "responsible non-monogamy"- where cheating would be acceptable. Being cheated on is not a good feeling. It is particularly unpleasant when a partner had to practice layers of dishonestly to do so. Interestingly, almost every time I've been cheated on the person in question has also disregarded their (and therefore my) personal saftey while in the act; disregarding safer sex and/or safer BDSM practices. It seems not to be a coincidence that these things go hand in hand.
Friday, December 3, 2010
Do you have a wishlist?
Absolutely! I keep an Amazon Wishlist in six categories, to make it easy on anyone who might want to give me a gift. "Objects of Desire" is my general list, "Artistic Pursuits" covers makeup and art supplies, "Day to Day" includes self care and kitchen supplies, "Fashion" is just that, "Hedonism" covers edibles and adult toys, and "Required Reading" is all books. The lists include items in just about every price range, from comics to stand mixers, skin care to pocket watches, chess boards to dog beds and lipstick to truffles. It's fun to wish! Here's a link: http://www.amazon.com/Julian-Wolf/wishlist/341AYJAQRJQ6S/ref=cm_wl_search_1
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